Tuesday, April 27, 2010

What is Your Identity?

What is your Identity?
I was speaking with a group of mom’s the other day. And we were talking about our children growing up and what we were going to do once they were up and out of the house. What would we do? For me, it brought me to the place of , “Wow.. I have been homeschooling for a long time, what will I do after that? What will that look like?’ I have been Jennifer, homeschooling mom of 5…. What will my ‘new role’ be?
For a lot of us, our identity for the last many years has been wrapped up in our children’s lives. Of course, all parents feel that way, however, as homeschool parents that takes on a whole new meaning.
Because quite literally we have been an integral part of just about every aspect of our children’s growth. Spiritual, academic, and social. SO when our job is done, what will we do?
This brings me back to my original question.. what is your identity? What is my identity?
Are you indentifying more with being a mom, a wife, homeschooler, a certain kind of homeschooler, or a member of a particular church or perhaps being a member of one group or another. In the end, none of those things matter. What matters is our relationship with Christ. Can our identity be summed up as a Christ follower?
When we focus on our relationship with Christ, all other areas of our life fall right into place.
As we move toward Christ, building our relationship with Him. Answers to all of our everyday decisions and worries will become clear. Including, what will be next for me?
For I can do all things through Christ which strengthenth me. Phil 4:13
As homeschooling moms we often worry and fear about providing enough , are we doing enough, have we met all of their needs, have we checked all of the boxes, kept the right records and so on. While those are all important, after all, we have committed to homeschool our children and we do need to do it well. In 1 Corinthians 10:31 it says Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. So we should do our best. However, that is not our main role , our main role is to point them to the cross, point them Jesus Christ. And He will guide them and meet their every need. And far exceed anything that we can do in our own power. We as parents in the process, may be blessed and used as a tool in God’s hands, in our children’s lives, if we will just submit, trust and lean on Him.
There is only one thing in life that never changes, always stays the same, and that is Jesus Christ.
Hebrews 13:8 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever. So, no matter what stage of life you are in, you can trust that Jesus will be with you every step of the way.


  1. It's so easy to lose sight of your "unique" person that God created. He didn't just create a homeschooling mama. Or a wife. But a complete, beautiful, unique person. Sometimes we lose sight of that. Thank you for the reminder.

  2. You are welcome! It was a reminder that I needed myself!